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Which Abandonment Wound Archetype Are You?

Take this 90 second quiz to discover how your abandonment wound uniquely steamrolls your life...are you the Contortionist, Overthinker, Chaser, or Ice Queen?

Let's get real about how this sneaky wound has been messing with you

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Question 1 of 5

1. When someone you love gets distant, you...

A

A. Start "being better" so they'll come back, notice, and love you

B

B. Freeze and overanalyze everything...you've re-read that text message so many times your head is spinning

C

C. Reach out and immediately connect...but from a place of anxiety rather than genuine desire

D

D. Pretend you don't care, but secretly spiral

Question 2 of 5

2. How do you express your needs?

A

A. You downplay them because you don't want to seem "needy"

B

B. You hit your breaking point, finally say your needs out of anger and resentment

C

C. You say them, but feel like you're asking for too much and like you need to immediately repay the favor

D

D. You avoid saying anything because you assume it won't matter anyway

Question 3 of 5

3. How do you feel when someone is potentially upset with you?

A

A. Fuck, what did I do wrong now?

B

B. If I just stay quiet, maybe they'll come back...

C

C. Let me fix this, ASAP! ...maybe I can make them their favorite cookies to make sure they love me

D

D. Screw them, I didn't need them anyway

Question 4 of 5

4. In relationships, you often feel like you're...

A

A. Too much

B

B. Not enough

C

C. Always walking on eggshells

D

D. The one who has to be chill and unbothered

Question 5 of 5

5. What scares you the most about being left?

A

A. That you weren't lovable enough

B

B. That you'll never feel safe again

C

C. That no one will ever choose you fully

D

D. That needing someone means weakness

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